Conflict-era victims eager to start new life

- DURGA LAL KC, Dang

Sep 10, 2014-

There was a time when Bal Kumari Pun and Sarkini Sunar of Chunwang-1, Dandagaun, both conflict victims, shared an uneasy relationship. After Pun’s husband was killed by the state security forces and Sunar’s by the then Maoist rebels, the two could not stand the sight of each other during the conflict-era as each blamed the other for their loss. However, with time the two have come to terms with their loss and have been working towards healing their wounded hearts.

“In the past, I resented even the sight of Maoists and their families and saw them as my enemies, but this has changed now as I have realised that it is not worth clinging on to the past. We have to move on and learn to live together in harmony in the society,” Sarkini said.

Her husband, Chundamani, was killed by the then rebels for being a UML activist in the year 1999, while Pun’s husband, Bal Bahadur, was killed by police personnel acting on tip off provided by the villager that he had been sheltering rebels in his house.

“After my husband was killed, I started to view everyone as my enemy. But times have changed. Despite our loss, we have to find a way to live together in harmony,” Pun said.

Leaving the bitterness behind, the two single women have joined hands to form a group that has been working towards healing the wounds of the decade-long insurgency period.

And not only have they been uniting women folks victimised by the decade-long conflict, but also handling cases of social evils such as domestic violence, child marriage, and polygamy that is rampant in the society.

“After leaving our past behind it has been a whole lot easier for us,” said Dhanmaya Pun of Dhawang-2, Rolpa whose husband, Gangaram was killed by security forces. Meanwhile, the group formed by women affected by armed conflict is committed to upbringing of children orphaned during the conflict-era. “We have been saving regularly and many members of our group have started raising poultry, livestock and getting engaged in commercial farming to earn their livelihood and contribute towards the education of children orphaned by the insurgency,” Dhanmaya said.

Meanwhile, Tulasa Acharya, chairperson of the district network of single women said that they have even started building a shelter meant for single women in Liwang with assistance from various organisations. “Although many single women still face difficulty earning a decent living and are victims of domestic violence, we have been trying our best to extend a helping hand,” Acharya said.

Published: 11-09-2014 09:09

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